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Of course his dad & family is teaching him that my beliefs are wrong...which is why I started looking. I do take him to my church, he is learning another side.Make sure the court knows this. He should be barred from putting the child in the middle like this. Saying, 'this is what daddy believes, and that is what mommy believes' is one thing, saying, 'mommy is wrong and bad' is entirely another matter and should be addressed.
SO on that...my lawyer suggested me writing him a letter outlining our last try at a conversation and specifically mention this is to stop...that's why I'm here!!
when I try to talk to him about our son, she jumps in there, tells me what I do wrong, what a bad person I am, etcIf she is doing this in front of your son, the court can impose sanctions on her. Might remind her of that and definitly talk to your lawyer. If the lawyer says there is nothing you can do, get another one who is better and not so lazy.
I hope so, I'm thisclose to seeing about a restraining order. She really is not a nice person, and yes, she does this in front of my son. In addition to it being in the custody order that neither parent encourage the boy to call the others partner mom or dad, neither is allowed to disparage the other parent or allow anyone to in front of him. Neither one care about the rules....just allowing him so much rope....
I know he's unhappy, I don't care, but I know he's unhappyThat is why he is a different person around you alone, he may have realized he made a big mistake
I believe that....I've known him a long time...he's in over his head now. Doing things to make others happy really isn't the way to live life..he's learning, but he made his own bed.
They've even taken to encouraging my son to call her mom. Which is direct violation of our custody order, but he doesn't care.Not his call. Again, don't let them get away with this.
I don't...every chance I get, I've even told both of them to knock it off. Again, the rules don't apply to them, they now tell our son it's ok to do it, and to just do it at daddy's house. I tell him it's not ok, but he's 4...I don't think he gets it. He did call her by her first name for a long time, this is fairly new, she tried to tell me he came up with it by himself. I don't friggen think so. Such a cow....
He hates going to his dad's house it's always a fight even tho it's been a year since the custody was determined.There may be something else going on if he hates it so much. Can you get the custody changed
Working on it!! I've been to his pediatrician who recommended a family counselor, and I'm trying to find one who will work on a sliding scale as I don't have insurance to cover it. I don't want to go as far as saying there is abuse....but I want to make sure my son is ok.
Nifty side effect is that Attila will be steaming the entire time if that makes you happy. Don't know if I'd sit with them though.
My mere existance drives her crazy. She's pretty much shown me how much when I try to talk to my Ex. She now has her own child. I told her that when she is going thru what I'm going thru THEN she can talk to me about my business. She's really not a nice person....but I hold HIM responsible for all this. He's not worth protecting in my book.
Thanks for the input guys...dealing with the Dumasses is no fun...but I appreciate all the help I can get. My lawyer is on this, I have to formulate my letter, I'm working on it now. Once that's done then we move to the next step. He doesn't think...that's HIS problem. I